The Power of Verbal Abuse

The Power Of Words

“”We cannot afford to underestimate the importance and power of our words. The New Testament writer James said that even though the human tongue is a small part of the body, it has the power to make a tremendous impact (Jas. 3:1-12). The book of Proverbs reminds us that “the tongue has the power of life and death” (18:21)””

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There are so many living among us that have and still are suffering. And even when / if  you have managed to break away from the
physical relationship…. the mental stranglehold is stronger and more of a prison than the actual relationship.

I cannot speak of physical abuse, not with experience. But understand this, no matter how bad things, you are stronger than you
realize and have the ability to break away.
It will not be easy and I make no promise on that.

A person can be so verbally abused that they don’t know what’s true anymore. This abuse is designed to put a person in a numb state so they are unable to make clear-headed decisions.

Verbal abuse takes a person from what they know is truth to a confused state. And it arises because the abuser consistently interjects lies as truth until the abused no longer knows what to believe.  It’s mental domination which leads to emotional and physical restraint.

Do you know the signs? Do any of these fit your situation?

  • Name-calling
  • Placing undue blame
  • An overly critical spirit
  • Resentment
  • Slapping negative labels on personal traits or behaviors
  • Responding with ridicule rather than encouragement
  • Threatening physical harm
  • Starting rumors that degrade reputation
  • Angry outbursts
  • Manipulation (“If you love me, you’ll do ____”)
  • Withholding information
  • Limiting access to finances or personal possessions
  • Failing to display affection
  • Refusing to acknowledge their spouse’s feelings
  • Using sarcastic or mocking tones, even if the message itself is positive

Trust me when I say I’ve lived this. And it still affects me today.

  • Worthlessness
  • Unattractiveness
  • Depression,
  • Inadequacy
  • Low self-esteem
  • Insecurity
  • High psychological stress
  • Shame

You do not have to be the victim.

YOU are NOT the reason, nor is it your fault.

So what can you? How can you change the situation?

The most important thing to remember about verbal abuse is the purpose is to control.  The key to responding to verbal abuse is
learning how to break free of the control and get your power back.
Don’t underestimate how difficult this can be.  To successfully stop verbal abuse it’s critical to have the guidance and coaching of an
experienced professional counselor

If you don’t react, there is no power over you. You don’t deserve to be treated or talked to in this manner.

We were not born with ‘doormat’ mentality, you did not wake up and decide to be a victim. It happens, and happens more than you realize. And while women are more subject to this, men are abused as well.

Just remember your personal safety is far more important than the relationship. If the verbal becomes physical, leave and seek
immediate help.

If you find your abuse is more than you can tolerate:

Contact the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence at 1.800.799.SAFE (7233) or 1.800.787.3224 (TTY). Keep your local law enforcement involved.

You are not alone, so don’t ever think no one knows what you’re
going thru. There are so many people that want to reach out to you,
but are waiting for you to make the first move. Because until you are willing and ready for change, nothing we say will be received.

 

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2 thoughts on “The Power of Verbal Abuse

  1. Great post! This is a real problem and even those who we think love us can really mess with our heads. Thank you for shedding more light on this subject and showing people they can overcome and there are places to go for help!

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  2. Verbal abuse is the unseen, and sometimes causes the most damage.
    The one thing that keeps ringing in my head is….
    “Dorothy doesn’t say much but when she does it isn’t worth listening to”
    So for almost 10 years, I suffered in silence.

    It destroyed all self-confidence and the ability to trust if anything I had to say was worth saying. I still, to this day, am working thru that.

    Women need to know that their voices need to be heard. And that they are not alone.

    Like

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